- Relational wisdom
- Compassionate conflict
- Communication skills
About Robert
Robert Grimes is a PACFA counsellor in Australia with 18 years of professional experience. He works with people who are dealing with relationship strain, family conflict, grief and intimacy-related concerns. He also supports people who want to understand and manage anger that affects their close relationships.
Robert emphasises relational wisdom and what he calls the art of compassionate conflict. He listens for patterns that repeat between partners, siblings, parents and friends. In sessions he helps people name those patterns and try different ways of speaking and responding so arguments don’t escalate.
He describes his role as helping individuals and partners untangle attachment and abandonment issues, control and communication problems, and the guilt or shame that can follow separation and divorce. He also works with concerns such as midlife transitions, men’s issues, isolation and mood shifts. Robert uses practical conversation and guided reflection rather than abstract theory.
People who come to him for anger-related work often practise specific communication skills and reflection exercises in session. He encourages testing small changes between meetings and talking through what did and didn’t work on return visits. He frames anger as a signal about unmet needs and patterns to be understood rather than something to be simply suppressed.
Starting therapy involves a short matching questionnaire and scheduling a first session. Robert asks about the relationship context, recent triggers and what the client wants to try first. He aims for clear, respectful dialogue and straightforward next steps.
How his approaches translate to online sessions
Robert emphasises relational wisdom and compassionate conflict work, which means sessions focus on tracking interaction patterns and practising communication techniques. This approach helps when anger shows up as repeated arguments, avoidance or simmering resentment and is useful for grief-affected relationships and intimacy concerns.He also uses guided reflection and practical exercises in session to surface attachment and abandonment patterns. These short, structured reflections help people notice triggers and try different responses between meetings, then review what changed when they come back to session.
Finding the right approach is collaborative. The therapist will discuss goals, try a method for a few sessions and adjust based on what is helpful. Clients and the counsellor decide together which skills to practise and which issues to prioritise.
Session formats are not listed in the biography, so please confirm which options are available before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, allow a shorter check-in on a work break, or remove the need to travel. These practical benefits can make it simpler to try out different ways of handling anger and relationship conflict.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Experience
18+ years
Listed in
Australia
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of relationship issues does he work with?
He works with relationship strain, family conflict, intimacy concerns and issues that drive repeated arguments.
Which style or approach does he use in sessions?
He emphasises relational wisdom and the art of compassionate conflict, focusing on practical conversation and reflection rather than abstract theory.
How much experience does he have?
He has 18 years of professional work experience in Australia helping people with relationship and grief-related concerns.
What credential does he hold and where is he based?
He is accredited with PACFA and practises in Australia.
Can I see him if I live outside Australia?
Sessions are offered in English and he does not accept international clients at this time.
What session formats are available?
Please confirm current session options before booking so you know which formats are offered for initial and follow-up sessions.
How does payment and cost work?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with him?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.