- Client-centered approach
- Existential exploration
- Solution-focused steps
About Scott
Scott Kilousky is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in Hawaii with four years of clinical experience. He helps people dealing with anger as well as related concerns such as anxiety, depression, grief, relationship strain, and addiction. Scott works with adults facing stress, identity questions, and the aftermath of trauma and loss.
He uses a collaborative, non-directive style that centers the client’s perspective. Sessions focus on understanding what led to current difficulties and on practical ways to respond differently. Conversations move between reflecting on meaning and identifying steps that reduce immediate distress.
Scott draws from client-centered work to listen closely and follow each person’s pace. He also weaves in existential ideas about choice and purpose when people are confronting big life changes or questions of meaning. Solution-focused techniques help turn those conversations into concrete next steps that are realistic and achievable.
In practice Scott often helps people notice patterns that fuel anger - old grievances, communication breakdowns, or shame and isolation - and then tests small changes that lower reactivity. He also supports people with relationship problems, intimacy worries, and struggles related to sexual orientation and identity.
Sessions are conversational and goal-oriented. Scott asks about current challenges, what has helped before, and what a reasonable first change might look like. He encourages honest reflection and practical experiments rather than quick fixes.
How his approaches translate to online work
Scott uses client-centered therapy to listen closely and follow what matters most to the client. That approach helps when someone needs to talk through anger triggers or personal history without being led to a preset conclusion.He also brings existential thinking into sessions, which looks at choices, responsibility, and meaning when life changes spark strong emotions. Solution-focused work is used to set short-term, practical goals that reduce reactivity and improve communication.
Finding the right mix of methods is part of the process. Scott works collaboratively to identify which approach or combination fits a person’s goals and preferences. He encourages testing small changes, then reviewing what worked and what needs adjusting.
Confirm the current session formats before booking, as the biography does not list specific options. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions around work or family time, allow shorter check-ins when needed, or remove commuting time. These practical benefits help people keep therapy consistent while working on anger, coping skills, and relationship patterns.
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Experience
4+ years
Listed in
Hawaii
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does he address related to anger?
He works with anger alongside issues such as stress, relationship strain, trauma, addiction, and grief.
What is his therapeutic style?
He takes a non-directive, collaborative approach that combines client-centered listening, existential reflection, and solution-focused steps.
How much experience does he have?
He has four years of clinical experience as an LMFT practicing in Hawaii.
What are his credentials and where is he based?
He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in Hawaii.
Which languages are sessions offered in?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can people outside the US work with him?
International clients are not currently accepted; sessions are limited to those able to work within his jurisdiction.
How are sessions paid for?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with him?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session to begin.