- Anger management skills
- Cognitive behavioral tools
- Gottman communication
About Barry
Barry Plumlee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist (LCMFT) with 21 years of experience based in Missouri. He helps people manage anger, stress, anxiety, grief, and relationship problems. He also works with parenting concerns, addiction issues, mood disorders, and the fallout from trauma and abuse.
Barry draws on multiple approaches to keep sessions practical and direct. He listens to what feels most urgent and then uses clear tools to reduce reactivity and improve communication. Sessions often focus on specific situations where anger or frustration shows up, and on small, repeatable skills to handle those moments differently.
He has a background in community mental health and children and family services, alongside work with adult and marital concerns. That mix means he often blends short-term problem solving with longer conversations about patterns that keep coming back. He can talk through how family history, stress, or past trauma affect present behavior.
Barry uses methods from client-centered therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, motivational interviewing, psychodynamic work, and the Gottman Method. He moves between learning-focused exercises and deeper reflection depending on what the person needs. Expect practical homework and concrete communication practice when those fit the goals.
Sessions are scheduled with attention to everyday life. His experience includes first responder issues, fatherhood topics, adoption and foster care concerns, autism-related challenges, and co-occurring substance issues. He works in English and does not accept international clients.
Therapeutic approaches and how online sessions fit
Barry commonly uses Client-Centered Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in his work. Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening and reflecting to help people name what matters and feel understood. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and actions and teaches concrete skills to change unhelpful patterns.He also draws on the Gottman Method for practical communication work in relationships. The Gottman approach uses simple routines and exercises to rebuild trust and reduce escalation during conflict. These methods help with anger that shows up in arguments, repetitive conflicts, or when stress makes reactions worse.
Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will collaborate with each person to pick methods that match goals and daily pressures. That plan can shift over time as new issues arise or skills take hold.
Session formats are not specified in the provided biography, so confirm current options before booking. Online sessions can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy week, shorten check-ins, or avoid travel time. They also let people practice skills in real-life settings and bring immediate examples into sessions.
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Experience
21+ years
Listed in
Oklahoma, Missouri, Kansas
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of anger problems does he help with?
He helps with losing temper in close relationships, workplace frustration, building resentment, and dealing with someone else's anger.
What is his therapy style like?
He uses a practical, down-to-earth style that mixes skill building and reflective listening. Sessions often include specific exercises to change reactions.
How much experience does he have?
He has 21 years of clinical experience working in community mental health and family services as well as adult and marital issues.
What are his credentials and where is he based?
He holds LMFT and LCMFT credentials and practices in Missouri with licensure noted as MO LMFT and KS LCMFT.
Which languages are offered for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English.
Does he work with international clients?
International clients are not currently accepted.
How much do sessions cost?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin a therapy course?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.